No is a complete sentence.

I’ve gotten myself into so many tough spots because I didn’t want to say no to someone. Not because I didn’t feel like I was allowed to or because I was afraid of what would happen if I did, but because I didn’t want to let someone down. I didn’t want to hurt their feelings or disappoint them. But then, when I agreed to something that I couldn’t follow through with, I actually did let them down, and I became anxious about it and distraught. Continue reading “No is a complete sentence.”

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Why I Deleted Facebook from My Phone

I did it. It happened the day after the school shooting in Florida. I found myself getting into arguments with people about stupid things and I noticed my anxiety getting higher and my threshold for bullshit getting lower. I knew what I needed to do, thanks to the encouragement of my best friend, and I did it.

Here’s what I learned. Continue reading “Why I Deleted Facebook from My Phone”

The Problem with Winter Isolation

I’ve got a running theme about being alone and getting out of the house, lately, and this post will be no different. When I was explaining to Shane my ideas for the last post, he reminded me of this video where the guy stayed in his apartment with absolutely zero human contact. It’s called The Loneliness Project, and it’s actually a “campaign to end loneliness” about giving older people friendship and helping them to not feel isolated. If you haven’t seen it, you should. It’s very eye-opening and a bit shocking, and honestly, it feels a bit extreme. I mean, who honestly stays in their house with no contact with the outside world; not even a cell phone?

Truthfully, a lot of people. Whether they don’t have a phone, or are just not looking at theirs, it can get so so easy to let yourself start hiding, and then not want to come out of it. Especially for those who suffer from anxiety and depression. It’s not that you want to feel isolated; you just can’t physically make yourself get out of bed, much less out of the house. Continue reading “The Problem with Winter Isolation”

Things People with Anxiety Should Do Alone

If you suffer from anxiety, you know how easy it is to just let others dictate the day/outings/etc. You want to please others because you want to make sure they want to hang out with you still. Well, first, let me just tell you, they’ll still love you and want to be around you even if you choose an activity or restaurant that they hadn’t initially thought of. Second, sometimes it’s important to do things alone so you don’t feel the burden of worrying about everyone else’s immediate happiness, sometimes at the sacrifice of your own.  Continue reading “Things People with Anxiety Should Do Alone”

I’m An Introvert, But I’m Not Shy

I feel like, when people talk about being introverted, people assume they’re saying they’re shy. Generally it’s the girl with a hoodie and glasses on, reading a book in the corner, hiding from people. She doesn’t like to interact with others and is the quiet one in class who never says anything.

That, my friends, is one version of introversion, but I’m here to tell you that there are a whole lot of us that are the opposite. Continue reading “I’m An Introvert, But I’m Not Shy”